Vulnerability Hangover

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“Vulnerability Hangover” – By Frank Jay Leonard – March 9, 2020

I suffered this morning, before listening to the following Ted Talk, sent to me by my dear son. I can’t believe he sent it to me on this day. It is exactly what I needed.

I felt small, I felt weak, and I felt like I wanted to climb back into a hole, having just launched Leaving Shame last night.  I had acknowledged to people that I have been working through shame in my life with counseling and consciousness medicine therapy, especially concerning two traumatic events in this past year and a half. I considered maybe just putting an “Under Construction” notice on the Leaving Shame landing page, cutting off the links that would take people further into these pages, and putting the whole damn thing on a shelf, until I could regain my confidence.  I finally tried laying down on my bed and doing an hour of meditation/body scan/Reiki work, hoping I could get myself back into the sweet place I have been in these past several weeks since my healing took place, with all the wonderful shifts and changes that have occurred.  Didn’t work.

Finally, still sad and feeling vulnerable, I remembered the link my son had sent me and decided to listen. Brene Brown’s words were meant for me to hear this day.  Unbelievable!  She nailed it for me, and she enabled me to get up off my bed with quiet confidence and step back into this new path, with Mary Oliver’s words ringing once again in my ears,
“One day you finally knew what you had to do, and began.”

Here is Brene’s 20 minute Ted Talk. I hope you find it to be of benefit as well!

Postscript: Below is a URL for a post by Brene Brown, if you are interested in reading any of her books, in which she makes suggestions for choosing which books to read first. I found this very helpful and have ordered my first book (Kindle version) of hers tonight, “The Gifts of Imperfection.”